Tantric Massage
The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam
(pronounced ling-ahm, [ling rhymes with sing]) and is
loosely translated as "Wand of Light." Its meaning is
different in intention from the typical Western view
of the penis (ie. cock, prick, dong, dick etc., words
that may come from a limited perspective, depending
on the intent of their usage). In Tantra/Sacred
Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, a "Wand of Light" that channels creative
energy and pleasure.
The purpose of the Lingam Massage is to create a space
for the receiver to relax and receive expanded pleasure
from his Lingam. His partner (the giver) experiences
the joy of facilitating and witnessing the man
surrendering to his softer, gentler side. The Lingam
Massage can be used as a form of safer sex (when latex
gloves are used) and is an excellent process to build
trust and intimacy. It is often used to help men heal
from negative sexual conditioning and trauma.
Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it
is often a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is
to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum
and Sacred Spot (the equivalent to the female G-spot),
and allow the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he
may not be used to. From this perspective both receiver
and giver relax into the massage.
Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional
sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal
oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to
experience his softer, more receptive side and
experience pleasure from a non-traditional
perspective.
Preparation:
Take a relaxing bath or shower. Take your time and
breathe deeply. Conscious, relaxed breathing will
take you out of your mental process and will get
you more into your feelings. Relax your belly and
let go of the tension that most of us hold there.
Go to the bathroom before beginning the massage.
The best results occur when the bowels and bladder
are empty.
Let go of your thoughts and connect with your
partner through hugging, holding, eye gazing
(looking into each other's eyes for an extended
time), bringing both of you to a place of relaxation
and trust.
Procedure:
Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows
under his head so he can look up at his partner
(giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under
his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the
knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the
knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed
for the massage.
The giver sits cross-legged between the receivers'
legs.
Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed
breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs,
chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax.
Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink
deeper into relaxation.
Pour a small quantity of a high-quality oil (or
water-based lubricant when using latex gloves) on
the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently
massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause
pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum
gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above
the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the Perineum,
the area between the testicles and anus. Take your
time. You are giving a massage to an often neglected
area of the body.
Massage the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and
pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with
your right hand, pull UP and slide off and then
alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing
this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change
the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of
the Lingam/penis and then sliding DOWN and off. Again,
alternate with right and left hands.
Massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using
an orange juicer. Massage all around the head and
shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the
Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body.
It is said many ailments can be cured by receiving
a good Lingam Massage.
NOTE: The Lingam may or may not go soft as you
perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't
get hard again. You will probably find that it will
get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which
is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like
riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and
softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.
If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate,
back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little
before resuming the massage. Do this several times,
coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off.
Remember, the goal is not orgasm in and of itself.
Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and
control by coming close to ejaculation and then
backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is
key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate.
Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to
make love as long as you want and you can become
multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen.
Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses
that you can learn to separate. The result is a
very expanded sex life.
Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There are
two ways to do this.
One is by finding the spot midway between the
testicles and anus. There is a small indentation
about the size of a pea or maybe larger. Be gentle
and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep
inside and it may be intensely painful at first.
Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened,
he will be able to expand his orgasms and master
ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam
with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot
with your left hand. Try pushing in on this spot
when he nears ejaculation. It is aptly named the
Million Dollar Point in Taoism.
The other way to access the Sacred Spot is through
the anus. Many men, especially heterosexual men,
are uncomfortable at first as a result of negative
sexual conditioning. Be careful here and use
lubrication. The key is to go slow and be very
gentle. Make sure he is breathing as you slip a
finger from your left hand into the anus about
an inch or so. Then crook the finger back in a
"come here" gesture. You will feel the prostate
gland. Vary the pressure and speed of massage.
He may want stimulation of the Lingam as you
massage the Sacred Spot. Back off on the Lingam
as he approaches orgasm and increase the
pressure on the Sacred Spot.
Sometimes the man may have strong emotions come
up during access to the Sacred Spot. He may cry
and remember a traumatic event from his past. You,
the giver, are in a place of trust and intimacy.
Allow him to feel his emotions and be very loving,
not trying to console or fix him, just let him
feel whatever he needs to. Encourage him to scream,
cry, moan, sob, if it feels appropriate. Be the
best friend and healer he could have in that moment.
Ending the Massage:
If he chooses to let go and ejaculate, encourage him
to breathe deeply during the orgasm. It will blow
his mind, especially if he has come close and held
back at least SIX times before ejaculating. Holding
back six times charges up the sexual battery with
tremendous energy. It is then his choice as to where
he wants to send this energy -- out with the ejaculate
(the prevailing paradigm) or inward for other uses
(men who master ejaculation are able to channel this
energy into other areas of their being).
When he feels complete with the massage gently remove
your hands and allow him to lie there quietly. You
may want to snuggle up together or you can leave the
room and let him drift off into a meditative state.
Allow him to fully experience his childlike innocence
and magnificent male beauty.
The Testicular Massage
The Testicular Massage will leave your entire genital area feeling vibrant and alive! But more importantly, it's a testicular massage for all around better health and fitness for your testicles. The benefits of this exercise are: better blood flow and circulation. In addition, you get these beneficial "side-effects" from this exercise: Stronger erections! Stronger ejaculations! Larger testicles from the increased blood flow and resulting better health to your testicles! Higher sperm count and increased sex-drive - at any age!!! This is really a stand-alone exercise.
1. Begin by gently stretching the skin around your testicles. Do this by very gently pulling on each of your testicles - one in each hand - until you feel a very slight amount of discomfort in the pit of your stomach.
2. Slowly release once you've reached this mild level of discomfort.
3. Repeat this stretch 15-20 times.
4. Lean back and begin a rather aggressive, deep massage of the erectile tissue that runs under your testicles and down towards your anus. I recommend the use of both hands and rubbing in a circular fashion.
5. Continue an aggressive massage on the inner thighs way up close to the testicles and actually have the massage reach deep under the testicles until you feel your hands (one on each inner thigh) touching.
6. Continue the aggressive massaging up around the pubic bone deep down and around the erectile tissue of the penis.
7. Continue this massaging for a period of 10 minutes, making sure to spend equal time in all areas of the massage covered above.
8. Upon completion of your 10 minute rub down apply a generous amount of lubricant to your TESTICLES and surrounding area. No need to lubricate your penis for this one.
9. Now that you've warmed up the entire genital area with a great massage, you're now going to concentrate on your testicles in particular. Begin by repeating the gentle pulling down of your testicles as described above.
10. Again, repeat this 15-20 times.
11. Now you're going to use your thumb and forefinger to massage and stretch the skin of the testes by gently rolling your thumb and forefinger all around the testicular area - but not the testicles themselves! Obviously, the skin of your testicles will be in between your thumb and finger. Pay particular attention to the area dividing your testicles - right between them.
12. Do this for a period of 5 minutes, pulling on the skin of the testes while massaging with your thumb and forefinger in a circular motion.
That's it! What you can expect when you're finished: Lower hanging testicles! A vibrant, alive feeling in the testicles! This incredible feeling is your perfect indication that you have very successfully achieved better blood-flow and circulation to the genitals!
