Stop Premature Ejaculation
First of all, it should be noted that one man in 3 ejaculates quicker than he wants to, and that the vast majority of men sometimes ejaculate too quickly. So if this happens to you, you're hardly alone. A penis no matter how big or hard is of very little use to anyone if you have no control over it. This can be a great insecurity to a man's sexual self-image and cause much frustration to his sexual partner as well. Now we will learn some techniques to help end this problem forever!
What are the causes of premature ejaculation?
It seems logical that our prehistoric male ancestors were all rapid ejaculators. The Homo Erectus who could couple quickly with his mate and
rapidly reach ejaculation was then free to deal with enemy tribesman and predatory sabre-toothed tigers. The slowpoke got clubbed or eaten. Therefore, only rapid ejaculators survived long enough to sire descendants. Thus, if speed of ejaculation were hereditary, we all should have fast ejaculatory reflexes.
Obviously, the above theory cannot be proven; however, it does contain an element of truth. It is probably "natural" for healthy males to ejaculate quickly. Lasting longer serves no genetic function that we know of.
Lasting is a learned behavior, like learning to dance. It can prolong and intensify pleasure for a man. Also, many women like to experience orgasm - or have been socially conditioned to enjoy orgasm - when the erect penis is inside them. To reach orgasm this way often requires periods of more or less continuous stimulation by the penis.
Premature ejaculation is sometimes also caused or aggravated psychological factors such as guilt, fear, and performance anxiety.
The first thing a male must hold in mind is that good sex is unhurried sex. The longer he spends in foreplay prior to his first orgasm, the stronger and more enjoyable that first orgasm will be. The compacting of blood in the sex organs builds slowly, inflating the tissues and sensitizing the millions of nerve endings in and around the genitals.
Think of an orgasm like a balloon: the longer you blow air into it, the bigger it gets and the louder the bang when it pops.
Orgasm consists of two stages. One begins with the prostate gland, which encircles the urethra like a tiny donut above the base of the penis, contracts and releases its fluids, along with the contents of the seminal vesicle, into the urethra. To most males this feels like you are going to start a good sneeze, but it's too late to stop. Stage two is similar to the sneeze itself. The pelvic muscle contract strongly around the bulb, forcing the fluid out under considerable pressure. Orgasm is what a man feels when all this is happening. He has probably learned for himself that it is possible to ejaculate without having an orgasm, but he may not yet realize that he can also have an orgasm without ejaculating. That's exactly what you want to learn to do.
The average male in his twenties takes less than three minutes from the time of insertion
until he comes. This cheats him of a lot of fun and satisfaction and doubly cheats
his unfortunate partner. The average female requires about 10 minutes of sexual
stimulation before she reaches orgasm.
Identify your Point of No Return (PONR):
Before you can control your ejaculation you must be able to recognize when it is that you are going to ejaculate or, as we will call it the point of ejaculatory inevitability or the point of no
return (PONR). In order do this you have to do some exercises so that you will be able to identify your PONR.
You will want to take about 30 min. to do this. You should do this alone and without any added stimulation. You should pay attention to every nuance and subtle feeling that you will feel. Start with a limp penis and begin stroking until you are hard. Notice all of the feelings you feel along the way to your PONR. Give each level of excitement a number between 1-10, 1.5, 3.5, 9.5, etc.(1 being lowest or semi-hard and 10 highest and the PONR) along the way to your PONR. Try to stay at each level for about 2-3 min. Then move to the next. Notice what it is that moves you to the next level (the speed of your stroking, the tightness of your grip, what you are thinking etc|). Move slowly to each higher level as to not get carried away and ejaculate with out finding your PONR. When you get to a level about 9-9.5 pay real close attention to what you are feeling. You should start to feel the semen moving from the testicles and collecting in the prostate gland at the base of the penis. If possible stop and take a deep breath and feel everything. If you can't stop then you have passed your PONR. See how close you can get, then let your self ejaculate and enjoy it! Now that you have identified your PONR and you can tell when you are approaching your PONR all you need is to learn how to slow your path to orgasm which we will cover in the next sections.
What exactly is premature ejaculation?
Ejaculation that occurs prior to when a man wishes or too quickly during intercourse to satisfy the partner. When most males ejaculate they tend to quickly lose a usable erection for the simple reason that their discharge has temporarily released a state of elevated sexual tension.
