According to the Taoist philosophy the man represents the Yang (+) force and he has got all the male attributes. The masculine principle is a lot more volatile, faster and more active than the feminine principle, that represents the Yin (-) force. The woman is more passive; her moves are calmer and slower. By comparing the male sexual vigor to the female's one the ancient texts use often the fire and water metaphors.
Fire belongs to Yang and though its action is fast and strong, it is often defeated by water, which is a Yin predominant force. Even in Occident nowadays the ejaculation control is a very important element in sexual intercourse. This is the most important point in the Taoist art of love. Let's take into account some Taoist advices:
1. The beginner has not to be too excited or too passionate, too hasty or in a hurry.
2. The beginner has to learn to penetrate the vagina very slowly (and gently) and to come out suddenly when he feels that ejaculation is imminent.
3. If he feels that the excitement increases too much, he has to stop immediately the thrusts and to withdraw very slowly so that only 1-2 cm remain inside the vagina. He will remain in this position completely still.
Then he will breath deeply, will contract his pelvic platform muscles very strongly (the anal sphincters and the PC muscle). He focuses his mind at the same time on the process of holding back his sperm.
Thus he will realize the sublimation and transmuting of the enormous force it contains into psychic, mental and spiritual energies. After this period (that can be 5 - 50 seconds), he can make some moves of gradual, prudent penetration. If he still feels that the excitement is too much he could apply many times the method we described earlier (the blocking method) and even the "three fingers" method before he goes back to the intercourse. The blocking method is also valid for the woman in the case she has problem in controlling the sexual energy. It will be even more efficient if both lovers use it at the same time (even if only one of them is getting close to the orgasm).
4. The one who wants to control his ejaculation has to be careful not to be hasty and have a very strong tenacity.
5. The blocking method that makes the sexual control easier is very efficient but it has to be used instantly and as good as possible, at the right moment. It is better that it takes place sooner than the non-return point than later (when this point has already been overcome and the ejaculation process has been initiated).
